Father Figure.

November is the month that we all reflect on the things we are thankful for.  And honestly there is no one that I can currently think of who I am most thankful for right now.

And yes I am talking about my boyfriend. =D

This past weekend I was really frustrated with my Ex because it was his weekend to take the kids.  And well he didn't.  And the argument all started because I wanted to have a set schedule on pick up and drop off.  Well, apparently he had to work on Friday and couldn't pick them up till sometime Saturday   I guess it really wan't too much of a problem but it was just the fact that once again I had to accommodate to his schedule.

The thing is, is that the original agreement was that he takes them every weekend, Friday night till Sunday night.  And it's not like the reason why I want him to have the kids every weekend is so I can go out and party all the time.  One reason is for them to spend as much time with their dad as possible.  And another reason is so I can get caught up on some sleep and focus a bit with work since I work all weekend and on my days off I'm always up early with the kids and it seems like I can't ever get anything.  Like laundry....lol!

Anyways....

Him not taking the kids just makes me feel like he doesn't want them.  And if he has to work....well get a babysitter.  You KNOW you have your kids. Do what you need to do.  I have a babysitter when I go to work.  And I'm thankful that it's family too!  She does a lot more than just watches them too. Since I work early in the morning.  She gets my boy to school.  Feeds them, bathes them, and so much more.  I don't think I pay her enough for all shes done.  Point being is that people out there that know you need help understand and ARE willing to help.  And I'm sure he could find someone.

But why wouldn't you want you kids on your weekend?  Any dad out there would kill to see their kids.  So what reason would you have to opt out in seeing them?

But with all this pointless drama  I'm SO thankful Cam stepped in.  On what was supposed to be our weekend with no kids he watched them all weekend while I worked.  He didn't get much sleep, but he did it because he wanted to.  No words can express how this makes me feel.  When someone who isn't their biological father comes into these kids' lives and becomes the best father figure they could ever have.  And he doesn't just watch them.  He interacts with them. I can already see the difference in my son's behavior these past two weekends of being with him.

Yesterday my son said to us...

"Mommy, Cameron acts like our dad..."

I asked him if it was a good thing or a bad thing. He said it was a good thing. =D

How did I end up with someone who is not only so good to me but is also SO good to my kids?  I don't know honestly.  Sheer luck is my guess.

I'm just happy to have someone in my life and my kids' life that can show them what a true father is.  Supporting children isn't about just making money.  Supporting kids is about being there for them.  Showing that you care for them, no matter the distance between you or the time apart.  Being a parent is teaching them what it means to be an adult and taking responsibility for your actions.

Hard work does pay off.  But that doesn't just pertain to your job.  But to your family as well.  And I'm thankful for this little family I have now. Because without them, I don't know where I would be.