I think when you get to the point where your constantly telling all your friends and family that the guy your going to marry is "truly a nice guy", its time to stop lying to yourself and just break up. And I'm not just talking about the guys that hit their significant others. I'm, talking about the men your constantly defending because hes never working, or doesn't help around the house, or watching kids, and trust me the list can go on and on. If he doesn't have any ambition to do anything with his life before you guys get married....what makes you think that hes going to change afterwards?
Wedding bells are definitively not the wake up call men respond to in order for them to get their life on track. Honestly I don't even think there is a surefire way! And I am not bashing on all men out there. Mostly I am talking about this particular one, and of his kind. Hard core gamers......AND most of them are the same. They put the needs their guild, corporation, and or the tribe in their virtual world then the needs of his family. Its really sad! and no amount of BOOB and get him away from the damn computer screen. Oh man have I tried!! In fact, I think they ignore us on purpose just to fuck with us!
Anyways, kind of went off topic with that one. I can elaborate on that at a later time....Because I've got some MAJOR opinions on it!
But back to what I was saying.....
After living with Chris' family for a year we ended up moving into my brother's house. Which it was kind of better, but then not. The place was cleaner and we basically had the whole basement to ourselves...but that was about it. My family is very judgmental and very traditional. They ABSOLUTELY did not like the fact that I was main source of income (also I was pregnant at the time and they thought that I should just quit my job and stay home....so not my style!) and he just didn't do much.
So for the good year that we were living with my family all that ever came out of my mouth was mostly making the dude look good. Which isn't healthy at all. I look back on it now and honestly I should have dropped him on his ass right then and there! At least then I would have some kind of support from my family!
Basically, what I'm trying to say is that if you feel like you have to cover for someone because basically they are a lame ass....Then whats the point of being with them?? All they are going to provide you is disappointment for the rest of your life. So run....RUN AWAY AND NEVER RETURN. Advice that I should have taken a long long time ago. And now it kind of feels too late and that I should just suck it up and deal with it as punishment for my lack of self love. Because if I TRULY felt that I deserve better....I'd probably change it. But look where I currently at.....At the same damn place I have been for the past 4 years. Silly me.
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