Questions that Cameron and I have been kind of asking. Or at least we've been talking about it and just mostly making fun of the whole thing. And what are the indicators are when you start noticing that bliss is beginning to fickle.
How do you go from never wanting to leave that special person's company to can't freaking standing to look at their stupid face and just wanting to rip their throat out when then start talking?
It's been almost two months since Cameron and I have been dating and yeah, we are so at that stage. Never wanting to be apart from each other....fucking like rabbits (which by the way...how much sex is too much sex? I guess when you get to the point where you can't fucking walking straight because your vagina is sore....right? Ha! Yeah I went there). But what really changes in the relationship where all that stops...or at least slows down?
Honestly the best conclusion I can come up with is that you get too used to a person and all the little things that were cute in the beginning just become very very annoying. But it's really hard to actually pinpoint and answer. Unless your really paying attention. But every situation is different I suppose, so there really isn't a definitive answer.
All I know is that I really like this stage. Haven't felt like this in a very long time. But I know from past experiences that there are a few steps you can take to make this phase last a bit longer.
One. Always be upfront. Show your true colors from the get go. Or at least let them know that you do have a crazy side to you so they can be prepare for when it eventually comes out. Why hide a side of yourself. It's not going to stay dormant forever. Mind as well give the guy a fair warning. That way, when all is said and done you can say "I told you so".
Two. Honesty. That's a given. But be in depth about it. Tell them your past and what you look forward to in the future. If your past bothers them, then it's obviously not going to work out. The past is part of who you are and it is what makes you what you are today. And if they are scared of the future, then they are just not ready for a relationship. And talking about the future helps get things out of the way...If your futures are too different from each other then it will most likely not work out. As a couple you have to have common goals. Because being on a different page than your partner can lead to a lot of misunderstandings. And never ever keep anything from your partner. Just don't do it. Hiding shit can only cause harm. Because once that person finds out. Oh there will be hell to pay. And it could have been avoided if you would have just told them in the beginning.
Three. Relax. Don't be so uptight about little things. No one is perfect. People have their quirks, their bad habits, their traditions. All those things should be the reason why you are so attracted to them. And how can you be in love with someone when you can't appreciate the little things? If that's the case, then your in love with someone that they are pretending to be or what you want them to be which is fail from the start.
These are just some of the things that I've learned from my past and I am defiantly applying it into my present relationship. I know there is still a lot to learn but I think this is a good start. And I don't want this phase to ever end and if I can take steps into it lasting longer than the average. Then fuck yes I am going to do it. I've seen too many relationships fall apart because of stupid little things.
But I guess in the end, if a relationship ends because of something easily fixed, it obviously was not a good relationship to begin with. And hopefully to two people involved learned from their mistakes and become a tad more wiser for their next one.
I'm hoping for that being the case for me and Cameron. So far so (so very) good.
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