Anti-Love Story Part 4-Love Advice??

The other night when Chris and I went to the sushi bar, Ozzie (dude that makes the best sushi ever) asked us how long we have been married.  We told him that its going to be a year next month, but we've been together for 8 years.  Dude was really surprised.  

I think he was mostly surprised of the fact that we are so young and still able to make it work.

The thing is, I honestly do not know how its working.  Maybe it's just a malfunction of my being and that's the reason why I'm in a relationship that is a complete train wreck.  Or it could be the fact that I have never really know happiness for more than two seconds and just don't really know what I'm missing in life.

Anyways, I told him that in a relationships that have lasted basically more than three years, in order for it to work out just know that things will never get any easier.  If anything, it only gets harder.  And there is truth to that.

The longer you are with someone, you notice things about them that you never really noticed before and what do you know! They all bug the LIVING SHIT out of you.  But you have two choices.

One.  Ignore the issue.
Two. Dive in head first.

I recommend number two.  Because one, they can't read your mind.  If they could, well for starters your sex life would be AMAZING.  Just saying.

And if you just ignore the issue then its going to build up inside until finally one day you crack. And EXPLODE like a fracking volcano and then it makes you cheat on that person with an old friend from Jr high that you haven't seen in a while and your too drunk to really give a damn.  And you need a confidence booster because well, you feel fat that day.

OK so maybe the cheating part is just me.

What I'm trying to really say is don't suppress the feelings you have.  Because they are just going to bite you in the ass later and the problem won't be fixed.  You may be seen as a nag, but hey, at least your trying to fix the relationship by addressing problems (preferably sober) when they happen.

Oh, and relationships are hard. And it only gets harder.  I learned that the hard way.  And no matter what happens between me and Chris, I'm always trying to fix what we have.  I may seem like a lost cause, but you know I've invested a long time with him.  I should try.

Who knows, maybe we'll still be together 8 years from now.  Or 8 months from now we could separate. Again.